I spent nearly six years as a detective specialising in child sexual abuse investigations. In that time, I interviewed hundreds of children and sat across the table from the people who hurt them.

One thing was always true: the abuse didn't start with the abuse.

It started long before - with a proc...

Let me say something that might surprise you.

Not everyone who displays red flag behaviours will abuse your child. 

But here's what I know from nearly a decade investigating child sexual abuse - everyone who abuses a child displays red flag behaviours first.

Read that again.

Red flags are not a ...

Recent cases involving female educators and carers have understandably shaken people and forced many of us to re-examine assumptions about who we trust with our children.

Not because abuse by a female perpetrator is new - but because when a woman, particularly a trusted adult such as a teacher, har...

Why Teaching Kids About “Games” Matters More Than Ever

Most unsafe games don’t look unsafe. They start as fun, friendly, harmless… until something shifts.

Predators often disguise grooming as “play” - because games feel normal, familiar and exciting for children.

When kids understand the rules of ...

How to talk to your kids if you are worried something might have happened 
(aka: The conversation you pray you’ll never need - but must know how to have)

It’s every parent’s worst fear!

The panic that comes with wondering if your child might’ve been hurt. Maybe there was a shift in their behaviour....

It’s the scenario no one ever wants to imagine—but far too many live through.

You start to notice something off in your child - behaviours that don’t make sense, disclosures that chill you to the bone, a gut instinct that won’t leave you alone. Then it hits you like a freight train: the person harm...

The difference between inappropriate and grooming behaviours

As parents, educators, and caregivers, distinguishing between inappropriate behaviours and grooming tactics is crucial for protecting children against child sexual abuse.

Inappropriate behaviour can often be a boundary-crossing incident ...

Not all child sexual abuse physically hurts the child… and not all children realise they are being abused!

Before you skip reading or get ‘icked’ out by this topic, I need you to realise WHY knowing this information is so vitally important in helping our kids stay safe and reducing overall harm.

Have you ever replayed a moment where you wish you had spoken up and said something but at the time you didn’t know what to say or you were too shocked to say something?

It’s not easy to call out inappropriate behaviours, especially when it comes to other adults or family members, but when it comes...

I don't think parents and caregivers understand just how vitally important and necessary, consent education is for our children and teenagers and that unless you have been taught consent, it's not something everyone intrinsically understands or respects properly. 

In my experience, many sexual assa...

Whilst interviewing children about their child sexual abuse, I noticed recurring patterns and behaviours being shared by the children I was talking to both in regards to in-person abuse and online exploitation. They would describe how their abusers would similarly groom them, keep them complicit and...